Essential Needs – table
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Parenting and Reparenting Table
|Essential Human Needs||Essential Parenting Skills||PARENTING AND REPARENTING||Traits & Skills Developed|
|1||Safety||Protection||ensuring safety and comfort by providing a home that is clean, dry, safe, and warm||Trust|
|2||Comfort||Limits||modeling responsible and healthy behaviors|
abstaining from damaging habits
|3||Confidence||Guidance||finding the origin of negative tendencies admitting faults, initiating positive changes||Self-Esteem|
|4||Freedom||Boundaries||listening nonjudgmentally, allowing feelings affirming boundaries, supporting creativity||Choice|
|5||Love||Gratitude||creating a sense of appreciation for each member of the family unconditionally||Connection|
|6||Cooperation||Empowerment||supporting goals, empowering progress making family decisions together||Power|
|7||Compassion||Empathy||seeking mutually satisfying resolutions |
willing to compromise and be reasonable
One problem that arises with re-parenting ourselves is that we learned parenting from our parents who made lots of mistakes. To do a good job at re-parenting ourselves we must un-learn the parenting mistakes we were taught by an imperfect example.
This is when it makes sense to hire a professional to re-parent us instead of doing it ourselves alone. This will ensure that they have the parenting skills we are lacking. Counselors, coaches, and mentors can help with this process.