Essential Needs – table

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Parenting and Reparenting Table

	7 Dimensions of Life	Essential Human Needs	Essential Parenting Skills	PARENTING AND REPARENTING	Traits & Skills Developed
1		Safety	Protection	ensuring safety and comfort by providing a home that is clean, dry, safe, and warm	Trust
2		Comfort	Limits	modeling responsible and healthy behaviors abstaining from damaging habits	Self-Care
3		Confidence	Guidance	finding the origin of negative tendencies admitting faults, initiating positive changes	Self-Esteem
4		Freedom	Boundaries	listening nonjudgmentally, allowing feelings affirming boundaries, supporting creativity	Choice
5		Love	Gratitude	creating a sense of appreciation for each member of the family unconditionally	Connection
6		Cooperation	Empowerment	supporting goals, empowering progress making family decisions together	Power
7		Compassion	Empathy	seeking mutually satisfying resolutions willing to compromise and be reasonable	Peace

Re-Parenting Ourselves

One problem that arises with re-parenting ourselves is that we learned parenting from our parents who made lots of mistakes. To do a good job at re-parenting ourselves we must un-learn the parenting mistakes we were taught by an imperfect example.

This is when it makes sense to hire a professional to re-parent us instead of doing it ourselves alone. This will ensure that they have the parenting skills we are lacking. Counselors, coaches, and mentors can help with this process.